Lately I have been thinking a lot about how our iterations with people really shape their experience of life and their experience of who we are. Like have you ever met someone and just not gotten along with them and thought “wow she was such a bitch” and then someone else was like “really? she is like my favorite person ever.” Our experience of people have so much to do whats going on that day, minute, year all mixed together with our thoughts about ourselves, other people, the world. But, what if in a moment you could stop and completely change who you are for someone? This is something the I have really taken away from the Landmark Forum and the Landmark Senior Seminar I am taking right now. Did you know we have the capacity to do this? To be ANYONE we want to be in any given moment.
The next time you feel a breakdown communication, your goals, whatever in a situation, stop and ask yourself “What am I committed to? Are the actions I am taking, the words I am saying the words and actions of someone who is committed to what I am committed to?” If not. just stop and dont BE that anymore. It takes time and practice and at first its just about starting to notice who you are being in any situation. For me I am BEING “right” a lot….. I know, hard to believe right? But I operate from a place of I am right, you are wrong. This doesnt empower anyone and often times what I think is right is just one way of seeing things. So lately when I catch myself “being right” I stop and in my head ask myself am I committed to this person getting what they need to get for themselves, their health goals, their business goals or am I just committed to being right? And woah what a difference in how people experience me and how effective I can be for the world.
This lovely lady to the left is my inspiration right now! Sick abs without being TOO lean. Lets go! I am ON ONE right now nutrition wise. Took some new progress photos and I’ll be sharing every 2 weeks or so. STOKED!
Tomorrow is Valentines day and yet again, no valentine for this girl, le sigh.