Sucking at Stuff: The Key to freedom and happiness.

“Did you just fall?”

“No, I attacked the floor. “


“Yes, I’m freaking talented!”

You guys, I currently suck at a lot of stuff:

  • handstands
  • pull ups
  • speaking softly
  • driving (Krissy KRASH #duh)
  • monkey bars
  • writing legibly

In the past I sucked at a lot of other things:

  • roller skating backwards (and forwards)
  • public speaking
  • running more than a mile
  • double-unders (I still kind of suck at these but not quite enough to move them to the other list)
  • jumping 7 foot walls
  • walking and talking…you know….as a baby 🙂

Here is the difference between me and a lot of people who will never stop sucking at stuff: they take sucking personally.

Dude, you cannot take sucking personally.

PRO TIP: Sucking at anything means absolutely nothing about your character or worthiness to be alive.

Most of us try something, suck at it, and then instantly make it mean a million things about ourselves and how destitute for failure we are.

Not me though. I am not sure when I let go of sucking at stuff and gave up making it a personal crisis, but I can tell you the freedom that comes from giving ZERO F*$%s about sucking at something is quite fantastic.


Once you stop taking sucking personally, you can try anything……and if it sucks, who cares? You can either try it again and maybe suck a little less, or simply drop it and go do other stuff with your personal self-worth still intact!I

In fact, I am 100% convinced that the key to our success with ANYTHING in life is to go out there and suck with reckless abandon. I mean get out there and suck with some serious commitment.

So go out this week and suck at all the things!

It means you are one step closer to being awesome at it.

13 ways to change your life

1. Get uncomfortable

Doing things outside your comfort zone is the fastest way to change your life. What is known and what is familiar will not help you grow and will often simply give your more of the same. If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you.

2. Pick a new path

The best part about being a human and not an animal is that we can choose a new direction. You are not goose. You do NOT have to fly south every winter. If you don’t like the direction you are going, change it. If you don’t like your job, change it. If you don’t like your social circle, change it. If you don’t like your current level of fitness change it. Becuase there is exactly ONE person who can change your life. YOU.

3. Say “I’m sorry”

An apology is the fastest road to moving forward. Some times we have to apologize to ourselves for missteps in the past. Once we say “I’m sorry” it is time to LET IT GO and move on. Sometimes we have to say “I’m sorry” to people in our lives, even if they did stuff they should be sorry for too. One sure fire way to heal a relationship is to find something to take responsibility for WITHOUT ending the apology with “but you did_____ too.”

4. Up level your goals

I am telling you right now, your goals aren’t big enough. Not for YOU. Not for the life you were meant to lead. If you really want your life to change it is time to start expecting and demanding more from yourself.

5. Be your own #1 fan.

The world can only love you as much as you love yourself. One of the hardest things in the world is to love ourselves right now. Especially after we just unleveled our goals and set new standards for ourselves. But if you can’t love yourself now, you won’t be able to love yourself later. So apologize to yourself for not loving you enough before and move on into a blissful world of self love. It starts by high fiving yourself for taking the time to read this list of 13 things today. Go you!

6. Strive for strength over ease

There is little value in attaining attainable things. 100lbs is not light the first time you pick it up but it gets lighter the more frequently you lift. 100lbs did not start to weigh less. You just BECAME MORE. If something feels too hard, it is NOT because it is TOO HARD> it is because its time for you to GET STRONGER. Don’t join an easy crowd, you won’t grow.

7. Value your 168 hours

We all have the same number of hours in every week. Value them. Spend them with the people that are important to you. Turn off your phone, shut down your social media for a little while and BE with people. Prioritize your life. YOU are the one in charge of these 168 hours. If you are “busy” thats your choice. If you don’t like it go re-read #2

8. Don’t get “forever” faked out

You don’t have forever. You have a limited number of rotations of the earth around the sun before you permanently check out of this thing called “life.” If you only see your family once per year, then you only have maybe 60 more times that you will see your family. Make them count. If you only go on vacation every summer for two weeks, that is maybe 120 weeks of vacation you have left EVER. Enjoy wisely and intentionally and if thats not enough time, see #7.

9. Play full out

Every day CAN be your best day ever. You CAN be the best person for your job. You CAN give it everything you’ve got at each practice or workout or presentation or story time. Be someone who gives it their all every single time and see how quickly that can change your life. Promotions and slots on the all star team do not belong to people who just show up. Yes, 80% of success is just showing up. But 100% of greatness is playing full out.

10. Rethink what you put in

Become aware of what you feed yourself. Negative media is not food for the brain. Soda and snickers are not food for the body. Music with disempowering lyrics is not food for the soul. You wouldn’t let someone piss in your drinking water so why would you choose to dump junk in you your mind and body?

11. Call yourself out

Check yourself before you wreck yourself. It is easy to turn a blind eye or find an easy excuse for why you were late or flaked or didn’t follow through. Blaming others, blaming circumstances, blaming anyone but ourselves is EASY. Owning up to our own lack of integrity is hard. Life change rarely comes from letting yourself off the hook.

12. Embrace commitment

Do it because you said you would, not because you still happen to feel like it. Declarations are one of the fastest paths to changing your life. So stop fighting it like a 4 year old who needs a nap. Put your big kid pants on and finish what you started. Feel free to revisit #11 and #6 frequently for this one.

13. Leave it better than you found it (fight the good fight.)

If you are going to be here on this planet for the next few years, you might as well contribute to it. Work for a company with a good cause. Promise to smile at everyone you walk past. Love people more than you hate them. Choose joy over contempt. Be part of the elevation of man kind, not the ruin of it.

The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.
“– Winston Churchill

We choose our experiences every day. It’s EASY to own up to choosing how our life goes when it’s going well. When life takes a down turn, this is when we feel the most out of control. Who did this to our life!? “Somethings wrong here” is typically followed by “who’s fault is it?” 

PRO TIP: There is nothing good at the end of the trail of blame!

 What if we tried following “somethings wrong here” with “what would I prefer instead?” And then go seek that out. Spending more time chasing me what we DO want and less time dwelling on what we don’t want. This is the secret to a joyful life 

Create your dream life one thought at a time. Because, there is no other way.

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Italian Girl Meal Prep: Turkey Alfredo Over Spaghetti Squash and Broccoli


OH EM GEE THIS WAS SOOOOOO GOOD!!!!!!!!!! I can’t even…..

It was a slightly longer meal prep with a few moving parts but totally worth it!

Grocery List (you might already have some of this stuff):
2 heads of cauliflower

1 cup whole milk

2 cups grated parmesan cheese

1tbsp chopped garlic

3 tbsp coconut oil

6.5lbs ground turkey

Garlic Salt


2 large spaghetti squash

2 lbs frozen broccoli

12 tupperwares (if pure meal prepping for the week)
Spaghetti squash:

Cut in half the long way, scoop out the seeds (which can be rinsed and baked and eaten as a snack btw) and put face down in a pan in an inch of water. Bake at 350 degrees for 45min ish (or until you can squeeze it **with a potholder** and it’s feels soft).

Cauliflower  Flour Alfredo Sauce:

Bring water and some garlic salt to boil in a large pot.

Remove the green bottom and break up cauliflower heads into smaller pieces.

Boil until soft.

Remove cauliflower from pot with a slotted spoon and put in the blender with 1 cups of water from the pot. (I had to split this into 4 sections in my blender. I put 1/4 cup water in with each round of cauliflower in the blender). Blend about 2s econds or untill smooth.

In a sauce pot add all blender cauliflower, 1 cup whole milk, salt and pepper to taste, coconut oil, parmasean cheese. Stir on medium to low heat until cheese is melted and mixed in.

Cook and drain the turkey then dump into the sauce

Put it all together:

Lay out 12 Tupperware on a table

Split the spaghetti squash and broccoli evenly between each of the 12 dishes.

Top each dish with the turkey and sauce mix. This should make aprox 6oz cooked turkey per meal. If you want less than 6oz make a 1/2 recipe 🙂



Almost 6 years ago I met Mark Addy in a tiny office in downtown culver city. I came in to learn more about Herbalife and health coaching wearing jeans and a hoodie with one completely bloodshot eye from a #rollerderby tournament the weekend before. I showed up because I was sick of working 3 jobs and I was looking for something more. In the middle of a room full of people in suits and ties he took a chance on this roller derby girl and substitute teacher. He saw greatness in me that I never knew existed. Mark and his amazing wife Jill have mentored me through the ups and downs of learning to become an entrepreneur, showed me how to lead an ever evolving life of personal development and self growth, and how to turn my dream life into my real life. I now run several successful businesses in herbalife, fitness, and (coming soon) social media technology. You never know when or how or who you will meet that will alter the direction of your life forever. I can only hope to take this gift that they have given me and give it away to someone else, to help someone else from darkness to light, so that one day they look back on the last half a decade and say “I did it because you believed in me and have me the courage to go after it.”


The Formula

The Formula
“Practice isn’t the thing you do once you’re good. Its the thing you do that makes you good.
-Malcom Gladwell, Outliers: The Story of Success

To become stronger at anything the equation is actually very simple:


This works in any situation I promise. In college I was a really good beer drinker. Like really good. Keg stands? Bring it. Beer bong? Hell yes. Shots? Tequila please!

Why was I so good at it? Repetition over time. The first time I got drunk I puked all over the bathroom at my dads house (sorry bro…guess you shouldnt have fed your little sister Zima). But don’t worry, I didn’t give up. I powered forward and became a beer chugging champion by the age of 20. Or maybe 19. Or who really knows its all a little fuzzy. Here’s the point I am making. I practiced daily and I got good at it.

After I turned 21 I took my beer drinking skills and went pro, bartending at less than quality establishment in town. And at the ripe age of 23 I was working in a bar putting my professional beer drinking skills to good use when I found roller derby. After seeing a commercial for some crazy sport with chicks on roller skates smashing into each other I googled it and found a local league. The Orange County Demolition Divas said I could come try it out so I went and bought a pair of roller skates.

Oh shit. I was about as good at roller skating at 23 as I was at drinking beer when i was 16. There was a little less throwing up but definitely about the same amount of falling and bruises. But, just like my first career pounding brews, I started to put in the work every day. I would skate around my neighborhood, go to skating rinks, and I even got a job as a cocktail waitress where I was allowed to wear my roller skates. You want to know how to become stellar at roller derby? Skate through 200 drunk people in a bar at 1:00am stepping over spilled PBR and fishing cocktail napkins out of your wheels while carrying a tray of Patron shots. Yep. Footwork.

When I transferred to LA Derby Dolls about a year into my derby career I had dumped my bartending gig and was back in school to get my elementary school teaching credential. I would leave work at the school at 3pm drive my ass all the way up to Los Angeles from Huntington Beach and arrive at the track 3 hours early. I would study for 2 hours in the parking lot and hop on the track as soon as one of the coaches got there and allowed me to skate. Becuase even after a year in derby I could’t stop. T stop, plow stop, hockey stop. None of it and I missed making a team because of it. So here we go again. Repeated action over time creates strength.

Its been almost 9 years since I first put on a pair of skates. I think I am now more coordinated in skates than on my own two feet. I have skated all over the world, experienced the victory of a 3 time banked track championship, competed in some of the highest ranked WFTDA roller derby tournaments, and shared the track with many of the greatest roller derby skaters who have ever lived. But it didnt happen over night and it wasnt easy.

I dont know where inside us drive comes from. I don’t think its something we can ever manufacture or get from a book. But I have seen it enough in myself and in others to know that when you want something, I mean really really want something, you will make the sacrifice of time, sleep, social events, whatever to go out and get it. Malcom Gladwell says in Outliers that the key to success in any field is simply a matter of practicing a task for a total of around 10,000 hours. So if you are on hour 1 or hour 1,000, be patient. Your strength will come.

Ask for it.

This!!! So true!! My new mantra is “of course that happened.” Anytime anything amazing happens to me I tell myself, of course that happened. That stuff happens to me. I deserve it.” And more awesome keeps coming. Most people do the opposite. When shit happens they say “of course this happens to me. This stuff always happens to me. I’m unlucky.” And of course it always does. Then when good stuff happens most people say “wow I CANT belive this is happening. This stuff never happens to me! I’m usually unlucky.” We get what we expect to get. We get what we tell ourselves we deserve.

In the beginning of practicing this you may have to fake it. I did. It was practice. Every good parking spot, every little thing id says “of course I get that!!” And every little or big not so rad thing is practice brushing it off. Letting it go without attachment. It takes PRACTICE but it works. I swear. The universe is conspiring to give you exactly what you expect deep down. Most of you won’t try this but maybe just maybe ONE person who reads this will actually take it on and it will change your life like it did mine. Everyone else will live inside of “great for you, not for me.” And that’s fine too. Because we get what we choose to consistently ask for.

“The majority have been programmed from their past experience to expect physical decline. And while it is something they don’t want, they are programmed to expect it. And so, they’re going to get what they expect. It’s not that what they expect is the reality that everyone lives, but that everyone lives the reality of what they expect.